In just a minute I am going to tell you how to choose a theme song for your life. Well, for your life right now, anyway. It will change over the years, or even over the months. I’ve had several theme songs over the course of my life. There was that time in my early twenties when I couldn’t get enough of that song There She Goes and listened to it several times a day. I should say like thirty times a day. I like repetition, obviously!
I think I just really wanted someone to feel that way about me. I wanted someone to fall in love with me. I’m glad I outgrew that phase! If you think I’m slightly anxious and neurotic now you should have seen me back then. Does any woman look back on her twenties and think it was the best time of her life? Probably not, I mean, we just get better with time, right ladies?
Then I had some weird obsession with Destiny’s Child. Specifically, I couldn’t get enough of that song Say My Name. I thought it was empowering and having it blasting in my car with the windows down made me feel cool. I think about this now and laugh at my young self. You have no idea how much I was teased about this song. That makes me laugh even harder. I was so ridiculous!
There is a big gap in there where I can’t recall what my theme song was, but I am sure I had one. If I heard the song (or two) right now it would transport me back in time. Unfortunately, my mind keeps going to my early thirties where I had a short love affair with Death Cab For Cutie. I still love that song Soul Meets Body.
I think this is when I started to heal from my father’s suicide. This song really resonated with me. Especially these words:
I want to live where soul meets body
And let the sun wrap its arms around me
And bathe my skin in water cool and cleansing
And feel, feel what its like to be new
Could there be any better imagery for healing? I think not! Also, this is when my journey for being more in the moment and letting go of worry began. I wanted to feel more balanced and happy. This is a journey I am still traveling today so it makes sense that this song still resonates with my soul. I mean when the lyrics include a metaphor for not letting your thoughts control your emotions and behaviors (a little cognitive therapy, anyone?) it’s obvious why this was my theme song for a while. Those lyrics I’m talking about? Right here:
Cause in my head there’s a greyhound station
Where I send my thoughts to far off destinations
So they may have a chance of finding a place
where they’re far more suited than here
Then I fell in love with Jim and Ring of Fire by Johnny Cash became my theme song. I truly felt like I had fallen into a ring of fire. Love can feel that way sometimes. I think I stepped off my path of balance for a while! I don’t regret it for a moment.
Lately, I think my theme song has been The Glory of Love. Watching Tiny-Small grow up is sort of bitter-sweet. I want her to stay little forever, but she can’t. That’s just not how it works. I’m also realizing that there are good times and bad times, happy times and sad times, but love is what matters most. As long as I have my family and people in my life to lean on I can get though anything. We have each others arms when the world is rough with us. Right now, relationships are the most important thing in my life.
So, how do you choose a theme song for your life? You don’t. The song always chooses you. Sure, you can choose a battle cry song. A song that motivates you and gets you moving, but the soundtrack for your life happens organically. One day you’ll be driving in your car and hear the theme song for your life from twenty years ago and you will be transported back in time. For a brief moment you’ll feel exactly like you did when you were 18 years old and that’s when you will know you had a theme song. That’s when it suddenly hits you and you realize that particular song had meaning for you. It’s easier to analyze when you’ve had a little distance from it.
What songs have chosen you over the course of your life?
*While searching for a representation of my current theme song Glory of Love I came across this YouTube version that includes child mimes dancing. I know it’s supposed to be endearing, but I found it to be a little creepy yet also hilarious. It’s just funny, so check it out if you need to roll your eyes or giggle (sorry kid dancers, this is not a criticism of your dance moves, but I am sure if you are grown up now you are glad for the anonymity that comes with painted faces).