Last week I found myself saying, “Don’t too excited,” to Tiny-Small as she jumped up and down cheering after I told her we might go kayaking the next day, “It might not work out.”
What I said made me cringe. “Don’t get too excited” was a terrible thing to say. It’s like saying, “Don’t be too Happy.” I started thinking about how when something really great happens I don’t always let myself experience the joy. I temper my excitement because it might not happen or it might not be as great as I think it is. That’s a terrible way to live. I want Tiny-Small to bubble over with all of the good feelings she has.
I’m working on not saying things like “Don’t get too excited” or “Well, I’m not going to get too excited until I’m sure it’s going to work out.” I am also working on not pointing out all of the things that might go wrong and trying to focus on all of the things that might go right instead. It’s a change in perspective and change always takes time and practice. So I make mistakes, but I am getting better at it. I really don’t want to pass this way of thinking down to Tiny-Small. Besides, pointing out all of the things that could go wrong and why it might not work out isn’t very helpful when it comes to getting things done.
This time I told her “Don’t listen to me. Get too excited. We are going Kayaking!” Then I jumped and cheered with her.
Then, we went Kayaking.
It worked out fine. It usually does. We only get disappointed once in a while because usually our plans go well and we have a great time. Statistically speaking, we should err on the side of being too excited. So, that’s what we are going to do around here because jumping and cheering are way more fun than worrying and listing all of the possible problems that could come our way.