Don’t Get Too Excited

Last week I found myself saying, “Don’t too excited,” to Tiny-Small as she jumped up and down cheering after I told her we might go kayaking the next day, “It might not work out.”

Don't get too excited.
She wanted to help pump the kayak up.

What I said made me cringe. “Don’t get too excited” was a terrible thing to say. It’s like saying, “Don’t be too Happy.” I started thinking about how when something really great happens I don’t always let myself experience the joy. I temper my excitement because it might not happen or it might not be as great as I think it is. That’s a terrible way to live. I want Tiny-Small to bubble over with all of the good feelings she has.

Don't get too excited.
Pumping up the kayak.

I’m working on not saying things like “Don’t get too excited” or “Well, I’m not going to get too excited until I’m sure it’s going to work out.” I am also working on not pointing out all of the things that might go wrong and trying to focus on all of the things that might go right instead. It’s a change in perspective and change always takes time and practice. So I make mistakes, but I am getting better at it. I really don’t want to pass this way of thinking down to Tiny-Small. Besides, pointing out all of the things that could go wrong and why it might not work out isn’t very helpful when it comes to getting things done.

This time I told her “Don’t listen to me. Get too excited. We are going Kayaking!” Then I jumped and cheered with her.

Don't Get Too Excited.

Then, we went Kayaking.

It worked out fine. It usually does.  We only get disappointed once in a while because usually our plans go well and we have a great time. Statistically speaking, we should err on the side of being too excited. So, that’s what we are going to do around here because jumping and cheering are way more fun than worrying and listing all of the possible problems that could come our way.

4 thoughts on “Don’t Get Too Excited”

  1. I am perpetually too excited. But it makes the experience last longer. Even when it doesn’t work out.

    The house. I was SO excited about the house. And yeah, right now is a low, and I’m down and sad and definitely in break-up mode…

    But I’ll still get just as excited about the next one.

    1. I may be wrong, but I feel like when I was “coming of age” it wasn’t cool to be enthusiastic. We were walking around pretending to be jaded and skeptical. It was the 90’s if that explains anything. Jim calls the 90’s the “age of anxiety.” The thing is I think it is better to be perpetually too excited than moping around assuming the worst. Sometimes we get disappointed, sure, but so what? We live through it! We might as well enjoy being “all in” with our happiness and excitement, right? That is one of the things I truly admire about you, Chrissy!

  2. so true, LC. this is a lovely little piece on changing our mindset. i believe, as parents, we have seen disappointment from our own childhoods and try to do our best to temper or forestall any for our children. but that’s not life. life is about having a good time despite the possibility that things don’t always work “out” the way we envisioned. i think of a s’more… who knows: maybe that scrump-deli-i-cious treat didn’t start out that way. i’m so glad you went kayaking.

    1. I agree! I just don’t want to be fostering disappointment before it has even occurred. We might as well enjoy the idea of doing something and deal with the disappointment when it happens instead of anticipating it.

      I think kayaking is my new favorite thing!

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