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Living With Adult ADHD (Jim’s Corner)

I believe one of the most frustrating things a person with ADHD has to endure is the disbelief coming from “normal” people. A lot of the time when I comment about ADHD influencing my behavior I hear stuff like, “Doesn’t everybody have that?” or “I think you’re just not trying hard enough, it’s not ADHD.”

Sometimes I want to say, “Oh, where did you get your M.D.?” or “I didn’t know you were a psychiatrist!” but I don’t want to be rude. Sometimes I do say things though; like the other day when an acquaintance said, “Oh, ADHD, maybe that’s my problem.” I said, “No, you don’t have ADHD, but you might have mental issues though.”

She didn’t like that very much.

I think what happens with some people is that they think I get away with stuff because I have ADHD; like I use it as a crutch.  I actually really try to avoid doing that because I don’t want people to treat me like I have a disability or like I am “Handicapped” or just dumb.

For people who appear to be jealous of my ADHD, for some reason, I say, try growing up with teachers giving you a “D” because you “aren’t trying” or you’re not “performing to your potential.” My Army drill Sargent made me sit out of my units marching parade because I wasn’t “following his orders” and my marching wasn’t “good enough.”

Anyway, I wouldn’t wish my “disability” on my worst enemy. ADHD is both a struggle and a big part of my personality. It can be very frustrating one minute and sort of fun the next. A lot of times I dread having to learn new things at work just like I had trouble with previously un-learned material in college. I don’t transition from one activity to the next well and I know I have a lot of trouble in relationships. I can be very frustrating to my wife just like I might have been frustrating to my parents at times. I don’t have a lot of close friends. My army buddies were true friends, but I haven’t seen any of them in 20 years or so.

LivinWith Adult ADHD Jim's Corner

To people who say that ADHD is a “childhood disability” (including a former psychiatrist) I say, “You’re kidding, right? Is autism a childhood disability also?”

I guess ADHD is, and always has been, a double-edged sword for me. I like the energy, the humor, the creativity, and the risk taking that is part of the ADHD experience. And I dislike the frustration, the depression, the struggle, and the isolation that is also part of the ADHD experience.



Jim Guest Posts With: 14 Things I am Grateful For (including my ADHD)

I have been running around in a panic because, for the first time ever, I am setting up a booth to sell my art. I’m a little nervous. Also, Tiny-Small and I have been sick. The being sick has tempered my anxiety about facing the world with my art on display behind me. I mean, lets face it, when you feel lousy you’re more likely to just shrug your shoulders and not really care that much. Just give me a warm blanket and a soft, quiet place to rest my head, right? Anyway, after witnessing me fret over unwritten blog posts and whether or not we have duct tape my husband graciously offered to guest post today!

*Disclaimer: I did not pay him to say nice things about me even though I totally should have. That is all.

14 Things I Am Grateful For (including my ADHD)

by Jim

1. My gorgeous and talented wife and daughter and all of the joy and love they bring me.

2. Being surrounded by animals. The dogs get a little noisy sometimes, the cats always need their litter boxes changed; but I love them all, even the chickens.

That moment when you have to type your husbands guest post and realize he wrote it half on the newspaper and you have to follow multiple arrows…

3. Our dome house with the great views and all the land to hike in. The awesome Desert Spiny Lizards to show Tiny-Small.

4. My amazing parents – still going strong in their 80’s with all the house boating and bowling. It’s awesome they adopted me. I can’t imagine having different parents.

5. My incredible Sister and Brother-in-law who run an amazing nonprofit The Network of Care that provides meals to grief-stricken parents of ill and injured children in hospitals. Oh, and Jim runs for the California State Assembly in his spare time. AND builds playgrounds for special needs children. My niece, Lindsey, just got her PhD in psychology, which means she is super smart, of course. She’s also travelled all over the world and just recently climbed half dome in Yosemite. Keep up the good work, Linds! Love ya!

6. My career and the satisfaction it brings. I get to help people and get paid too – what a deal!

And then your husband starts his list on the right side and then continues it on the left side and then starts over on the top left side…

7. My friends – especially my army buddies who I can always call or visit and are always there for me.

8. My awesome Mother-in-law (is that an oxymoron?). She always cues me in on great wine deals at the supermarket she works her ass off in.

9. My 1996 Toyota Tacoma with 300,000 miles on and it’s still going strong!

10. Oh, did I mention my wife? Not only gorgeous and talented, but funny too.

11. Working at a wil life rescue/ Jr. museum as a kid. I learned everything from canoeing/canoe rescue to reintroducing animals back into the wild, back-packing and wilderness first aid. Plus I had a great peer group to grow up with.

12. My cousins – they live everywhere from Japan to Turkey to California to Las Vegas and have interesting careers: English teacher, truck-driver, CEO, immigration lawyer, doctor, veterinarian, river-rafter.

And then on the side of the newspaper…

13. My ADHD – I probably would not have traveled to 6 of 7 continents without it (Antarctica is too cold for me).

14. My niece Stephanie – even though you were only in my life for 20 years you left a huge footprint. I still feel your presence – love ya!